what a mess…he said…what a mess we have made…
Arthur Koestler, Darkness at Noon
sometimes you just need to distance yourself to see things more clearly.
Unknown
Observer
Beau Taplin
If your partner isn’t your best friend, they’re not right for you.
I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I. And if by chance we find each other,it's beautiful, If not, it can't be helped.
Fritz Perls (1893-1970)
“Sometimes people sneak up on you and suddenly you don’t know how you ever lived without them.”
Elle Kennedy, The Deal
"I burned.
I burned.
I burned.
I burned
through the sheets until I was clean and new and strange, and the fire never followed me again after that."
▼
Caitlyn Siehl, Fire
“Everyone walks around with a part of themselves broken and bent out of shape,
a little portion of themselves out of sync and crumbling thanks to the nature of loving and trying to be loved by other people.”
Sara Quin
BROKEN PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU MORE.
people only tell lies when there is something they are terribly frightened of losing.
Orhan Pamuk, The Museum of Innocence
“Do you know what your problem is? You can't live with the idea that someone might leave.”
John Green, An Abundance of Katherines
"The ability to sit down with another person and talk for hours, about anything and everything, is more attractive to me than anything else. "
"
My grandmother once told me, “Relationships are work, honey, and they aren’t 50/50. Some days when I get up I only feel like giving 10%, then your granddaddy has to give 90% that day. But there is always 100% love."
My grandmother once told me, “Relationships are work, honey, and they aren’t 50/50. Some days when I get up I only feel like giving 10%, then your granddaddy has to give 90% that day. But there is always 100% love."
Leigh Ann Lunsford
I no longer want it all, just some comfort and some sex and some minor love.
Charles Bukowski
"When the moon sails out
the waters cover the earth
and the heart feels it is
a little island in the infinite."
Federico García Lorca, from “The Moon Sails Out,”
Lorca & Jimenez: Selected Poems (Beacon Press, 1997)
Lorca & Jimenez: Selected Poems (Beacon Press, 1997)
"i assumed you fucked someone. isn’t that how you get people to like you?"
Sometimes, the best way to solve a problem is to just stop caring.
JC
Beau Taplin, “The Promise
The killing, the leaving forever, the going away forever—if it happened, she’d be the one to do it. Watching her sleep, he finally knows: she’s a person who doesn’t come back, because she’s a person who believes what she’s told. She believes in the same way as she sleeps.
Marguerite Duras, from Blue Eyes, Black Hair
an excerpt from a novella
I've done the vilest things - the foulest things - but I've done them... superbly.
Henry & June
Malanda
I am still putting myself out there.
Don't sabotage yourself.There are plenty of other people willing to do that for free.
Jenny Lawson.
I just can't get rid of the feeling that I am a bad person with a good heart. I always want to do the right thing but in the end I'm fucking things up. In the end I'm always fucking things up.
Sometimes I look at myself and think, 'How did everything get so tangled up?
Alan Moore, Watchmen
The Shadow of the Wind.
Melody Beattie.
Alexandra Bracken, In The Afterlight.
Things take time. So just be patient.
"If two people are meant to be together, eventually they'll find their way back."
So, I saw the guy I dated for a couple of months. Though he is was entertaining, amazing in bed he was a complete asshole but seeing him there I was willing to forget all about that just to get one more fix.
"it’s not fair. people claim to know you through the things you’ve done, and not by sitting down and listening to you speak for yourself."
i wonder if things can happen too early or too late or if everything happens at exactly the right time. if so, how sad and beautiful.
and let’s be clear i’ll trust no one.
Don’t wait to realize you shouldn’t have waited.
it’s tragic how hard people fall in love with the idea of someone , humans are more lovable than the mere idea of them.
my only goal in life right now is to be genuinely happy.
i may think of you softly from time to time. but i’ll cut off my hand before i ever reach for you again.
Arthur Miller, The Crucible
like a snake, my heart
has shed its skin.
i hold it here in my hand,
full of honey and wounds.
Federico García Lorca, ”New Heart”
Don’t you get it? I choose you, over anyone else. I'd always fucking choose you.
She said do you miss him?
she replied yes, she couldn’t even try to hide it anymore. God how she missed him. Anything stupid that happened he was the first person she wanted to tell. She has been trying to fill the void but it does't work.
all i talk about is how horrible boys are but i'm in love with one
I need something different. Someone who's going to steer me in the right direction.
the know the tip of my tongue
tastes of ash coughed up by
the fire in my chest i refuse to
extinguish.
i don’t know who i am
when i’m not burning.
Fuck that whole “they took 20 minutes to text back so I’ll take 30” bullshit. If I’m interested in you, you can have all of my attention whenever I’m free. You’re busy, das cool.. Do ya thing, and I’ll be here when you’re free again
pizza boy, how you been? you don't come round here much these days.
F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Short Stories
BLOOMING.
give people time. give people space. don’t beg anyone to stay. let them roam. what’s meant for you will always be yours.
Reyna Biddy
i make no apologies for how i chose to repair what you broke.
Meredith Grey
are strong enough to find it again.
Martina Boone, Compulsion
Bryant McGill
a boy and a girl were in love. when they fought the girl needed to be held and the boy needed to be alone. because of this the girl pushed him away. he sat alone quite sad and she ran off to find any careless body that would hold her. this is the true tragedy.
Esperanza Spalding
G.L Lambert - Hot Tactics
he who does not trust enough, will not be trusted
Lao Tzu
He and I
When words run dry,
he does not try,
nor do I.
We are on par
He just is,
I just am
and we just are
Lang Leav
Until you get
comfortable with being
alone, you'll never know
If you're choosing someone
out of love or loneliness.
don’t look away. look straight at everything. look it all in the eye, good and bad.
Henry Miller, from Dear, Dear Brenda: The Love Letters Of Henry Miller to Brenda Venus 
Someday we'll know
Why I wasn't meant for you
The New Radicals Why I wasn't meant for you
Unknown
Too many people are living for compliments, instead of living for accomplishments.
Unknown 
Fuck boy: "I guess we ain't gonna hook up?"
Me: "I have too many fuck boy's right now, there maybe be an opening at the end of June."
You really know you love someone when all you want is for them to be happy, even if that means that you are not a part of it.
Unknown 
Today is a bad day. I can't even pull myself out of bed days.
DAY 1: of cutting out bad habits cigarettes/boys.
You know you’d be his if he asked.
Unknown
I get way too sensitive when I get attached to someone. I can detect the slightest change in the tone of their voice, and suddenly I’m spending all day trying to figure out what I did wrong.
"Ashes to ashes, dust to side chicks."
life moves pretty fast. i just scrolled through two relationships and three apartments.
I have been acting like a pig in fucking shit, boasting, bragging about what? Cut these tie's, I need a better storyline, lets rewrite the whole fucking script.
So what's your type?
My physical type and who I actually end up sleeping with are two very different things. But not pretty guys, more "rough-looking" guys with some facial hair but definitely not a fucking beard. A guy has to have a sense a humour and not this try too hard bullshit it should just roll off your tongue. I like a guy who doesn’t take himself too seriously but know’s when he needs to get serious. Some one that shows me something new that inspires me.(total sucker for that) A guy who I can act silly with and makes me feel special.Someone who just isn’t a complete dick is that too hard to ask for?
OK, give us some examples. Which celebrities do you fancy?
Tom Hardy, Ryan Gosling, Jamie Bell, Rupert Grint,
Jack O'Connell, James McAvoy Shia LaBeouf, Jake Gyllenhaal, Jerald Butler
Ed Westwick
What else turns you off?
Anyone who likes to play or watch cricket as a legitimate sport. Anyone with more than a passing interest in football. Guys who can't cook, long nails. religious guys, lazy guys, V-necks, Bitchy guys. Quiet guys. Overly loud guys.
Counterparts
"There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump puddles for you."
Unknown
He’s devastated me, but he’s also made me happier than I’ve ever been
"We’re not friends, we’re not enemies. We’re strangers with some memories."
"Every girl wants a bad boy who will be good just for her.”
No matter how careful you are, there’s going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn’t experience it all. There’s that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should’ve been paying attention.
Chuck Palahniuk
The cigarettes you light one after another won’t help you forget her.
Frank Sinatra
My coach house is up for rent and I will be moving at the end of May. I am completely happy with myself that I actually got through this and I believe it's made me a better person. I feel like I can get through anything.
Sending all my love
MRMXXX
the moment i start to feel under appreciated i distance myself. i don’t care to be anything to anyone who doesn’t crave me. i don’t want to be anywhere that i’m not missed every time my presence is missing...
This is for you
- Reyna Biddy
So Bought tickets for bestival.
BEING IN NO RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN BEING IN A WRONG ONE.
if it is right, it happens — the main thing is not to hurry. nothing good gets away.
John Steinbeck,”Letter to Thom Steinbeck,” 10 Nov. 1958
Give people time. Give people space. Don’t beg anyone to stay. Let them roam. What’s meant for you will always be yours.
Reyna Biddy
people are like dirt. they can either nourish you and help you grow as a person, or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt and die.
Plato
it’s a fitting punishment for a monster.
to want something so much—to hold it
in your arms—and know beyond a doubt
you will never deserve it.
Renee Ahdieh, from The Wrath and the Dawn
but she did look back, and i love her for that, because it was so human.
Kurt Vonnegut
I can't seem to drink you off my mind.
funny how when your dick is no longer inside me regularly i'm not worth replying too nicely anymore. sick of cunts who act like they are mr nice guy when really they're just even worse then the rest of them.
I have come to learn (taken me a while) that a guy will literally say anything to get into your pants, fuck boys are everywhere.
you always seem to forget that everything is so temporary. I mean, yeah okay it crosses our mind once in a while and we might do something daring and out of our comfort zone but when that moment passes (which is normally does) it gets stored away in the back our mids and we continue living our lives as if there plenty of tomorrows waiting for us. We postpone feelings and words to another day, another week, another month, another year. Everything is temporary. Forever is an empty promise
Never give any kind of pleasure to a boy you wouldn't give yourself.
Loving someone that doesn't give a damn about you; isn't sexy it's misplaced energy, also known as self-destruction.
Let the dead be dead.
Never trust a boy who already has a pack of condoms ready in his coat pocket before he even knows your name.
Never "give a man permission."
You shouldn't have to. It should be mutual.
Stop treating your body like a currency
don't pay anyone who doesn't deserve it.
How you chase pussy then shame women for giving it to you.
You ungrateful fuck. You're lucky I even came here in the first place.
RUIN ME
I'm the kind of girl who as a restless mind and inpatient legs...
I watched as her fingers nervously flicked the well worn elastic of her white cotton panties
I want you to ruin me.
Michael Faudet.
Don’t chase temporary happiness.
Unknown
Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had.
Unknown
Don’t force someone to make time for you, if they really want to, they will.
Unknown
Unknown
She wouldn't give every piece of herself to a boy that promises some form of forever. Cause there really isn't really forever there's just now and now I'm wishing I had one more day one more second to tell you everything anybody couldn't. There was some lack of words some lack of conversation communication you got discounted and fell too deep. Your demons always played well with mine but I suppose they got too loud too angry too violent. Grabbed hold and didn't want to let go. I'm sure you put up a good fight you always did, your fists weak and small but your courage larger than life. Oh yeah you did not let them take you easily.
krccL
God, you know my situation & you know I can’t make it without you. Thank you for always being here by my side through it all.
Things I should have told you.
If you hesitate between me and another person, don’t choose me.
Unknown
UNTITLED
____________________________________________________________________
I'm the type of person who enjoys being alone. I like to walk home alone with my music. I like to stay home alone Friday nights. I just like quiet and time to myself. But I don't like being alone for a long time. I don't like being alone long enough for the bad thoughts to take over. I guess what I'm saying is that I like being alone, but I hate being lonely.
YOU EITHER HAVE THE FEELING OR YOU DON'T.
When the time comes to leave, just walk away quietly and don't make any fuss.
Delete her number.
Stop ringing her. Stop messaging her. Stop making excuses to see her, to drop by her place.
Erase her name from memory. Remove yourself from her life, more completely than you would like but as completely as she deserves. Move on, so that you can allow her to also move on. When you close your eyes, you don’t get to see her face. Not anymore. You don’t get to think about her lips, the warm glow of her skin when she rests next to you, or how she squeezes your hand in her sleep. You are not allowed to remember the smell of her perfume, that she only drinks mint tea (with two dollops of honey), or that she loves you.
She loves you.
She has been in love with you for too long.
So, forget how she says your name. Forget how she calls your name. Forget how she screams your name. Forget that time you got sick and she stayed up with you all night, letting you lay your head in her lap and holding a cold compress to your forehead. Forget how her hair feels in your fingers. Forget how she looks in your sweatshirts.
Forget her.
Know only that she existed at one point in your life, but relinquish all hope that she could exist at another point — sometime in the future that you are unwilling to specify because you don’t know what you want. Yet. It is not fair for you to swoop in and out of her life as you choose. It is not fair for you to say that you are satisfied with “things as they are” and you will have time to “figure it out” later. Let her stop investing emotionally in you. Let her pour that love and care into the people who deserve her.
Don’t tell her that you think about her all the time. Don’t tell her that it bothers you to hear about her with other people, but that you’re willing to understand as long as she likes you more than them. Don’t tell her that this isn’t the right moment but that there will be a right moment. There is not going to be a right moment. She shouldn’t have to wait for the right moment.
Don’t tell her that you can’t handle ultimatums, that you don’t like the idea of finally adding finality to your relationship — whatever still remains of it.
What you are telling her is that you want to keep her on as an option, that you are taking her for granted, that you want to know she will be there, that you can depend on her at the end of the day. When you find that no one else has stuck around or that those who have are less interesting, less thoughtful, or less doggedly loyal to you.
That is what she has been to you, for you almost as long as you have known her: a constant emotional crutch, the guarantee of stability, a safety net while you reachvout to grasp objects that sparkle and shine far greater than she does. All that glitters is not gold, haven’t you heard?
She is fire. You are ice, and you are afraid that her slow burn will smolder your cool, hard demeanor. That’s what has driven your decisions, your actions all along: fear. You are a coward. You are a hypocrite. You are terrified to let her go, but you are afraid she is too good for you, that she could drive you wild, that you would choke on her flames. That she is too much for you to handle right now.
Right now.
But if you choose not to love her now, you can’t choose to love her later.
Holy shit
I realized that life is so much better when people don’t know what you’re up to
"When you start to know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant. "
LISA UNGER, Beautiful Lies
“I am afraid I’ll never be happy with what I have, because I don’t really know what I want.”
Iviva Olenick
"And when you left, I thought that you’d at least look back. "
BABBAR-SHER
if it is right, it happens — the main thing is not to hurry. nothing good gets away.
John Steinbeck,”Letter to Thom Steinbeck,” 10 Nov. 1958
You always made me feel like I was your second choice well towards the end you did.
I don't know how it got so bad in a matter of weeks but it got unbearable to be around you.
"Be careful with your music. People can ruin it for you. That song you used as an alarm tone to get you up to the worst days of your life will still be able to put fear in your heart even though it’s all already been and gone. There will be a song that you can’t listen to anymore because it reminds you of whispering your love in his bed in the dark. Another that you’ll hate to hear because you played it on the train on the way home from crushing his heart between your teeth. A whole band you loved that’ll be blacklisted because it was your father’s favourite. Be careful with your music. If you ever love another song, hide it away in the best moments of you - when you’re in the sun on your own and smiling. Maybe then you’ll be able to hear it for the rest of your days without feeling your heart break. "
A.J. “Music”
"Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship. I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating someone. But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever - and yet the friendship is the one people ignore. I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets - they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing - not even a date - out of you? It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls. It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning. The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one”. But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together. Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. Maybe I am the one who makes myself better. " Single serving size
"Have you ever met someone, spent less than thirty minutes with them and thought ‘I could easily love you’ "
DONTE COLLINS
he does something to me this boy.
life's too short to drink crappy coffee and cry over boys who don't care.
Enjoy each others company. Whats the rush baby girl?
don’t save your good lingerie for dates, wear it for you.
Dita Von Teese
"i told you it made me sad. but i was fucking dying, man."
Mikel Jollett
Forgive me...but I'm tired, I need to get away to feel again.
HAPPY ENDING?
There are no happy endings.
Endings are the saddest part,
So just give me a happy middle
And a very happy start.
One day I just woke up and realized that I can’t touch yesterday. So why the heck was I letting it touch me?
Steve Maraboli
Take me someplace where I can feel something– I want to give my heart away. Tell me his name so I can know love when it speaks to me. Give me someone I can write about.
Lang Leav, Memories
“There, it was over. How was it so easy to disappear from someone else’s life? Perhaps it was with the same ease that you enter it. A chance meeting, a few words exchanged, and a relationship begins. A chance falling out, a few words exchanged and that same relationship is over.”
Antoine Laurain, The Red Notebook
“April was too lonely a month to spend alone. In April, everyone around me looked happy. People would throw their coats off and enjoy each other’s company in the sunshine– talking, playing catch, holding hands. But I was always by myself.”
Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood
"Male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."
Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride
"This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don’t get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can’t do anything, don’t get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it’s ready to come undone. You have to figure it’s going to be a long process
and that you’ll work on things slowly, one at a time."
Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood
Charlaine Harris
people don’t listen, they just wait for their turn to talk.
you're complicated. you need somebody who gets that about you…. maybe several people
Stephanie
it’s crazy,” i whispered “one day you just wake up and realize the person you loved more than the world doesn’t love you anymore. you find it hard to breathe. it’s like you’re blind in a world you once found so beautiful. and they just left you like this, blind, alone, and empty inside.
Excerpt from a book I will never write #731
What I have realised this year;
I don’t like people criticising me that goes for looks or how i do things.
people telling me to calm down or not to swear.
I am a lot stronger and independent then I actually realised.
Ringing people isn’t so bad.
Telling people you aren’t actually into them is not so hard to do either
Can I lay by your side next to you?
And make sure you're alright?
I'll take care of you.
December 11, 2015
Everything happens for a reason, and sometimes it's better not to know.
sometimes, the bees tell her, things that are sweet like this attract the worst kind of hungry.
Emma Bleker, From The Mouths Of The Bees
she’s completely unexplainable. you think she’s the good girl, but once you get to know her, you realize she’s everything. she’s crazy, she’s funny, she’s honest, and you never know what she’ll do next.
i refuse to be loved halfway, and don’t you dare love me softly. i want love with thorns that leave scratches down my back, and kisses so searing they leave my lips burning for days.
Isabelle F.
Charles Bukowski
call it morbid, but she enjoyed handling other people’s sadness, perhaps in the hopes that one day someone would take her pain as well and do the same for her."
i don’t see anything any more: i can search the past in vain, i can only find these scraps of images and i am not sure what they represent, whether they are memories or just fiction.
Jean-Paul Sartre Nausea
AND THEN IT OCCURRED TO ME THAT YOU DON'T MISS ME AT ALL.
always remember: when the universe offers you another chance, pay close attention to what you’ve learned the last time,
and take full advantage of it.
and take full advantage of it.
Awakened Vibration
i told you i hated you because if i didn’t, i’d have told you i loved you, and i don’t think either of us could’ve handled the truth.
E. Grin
some people bring out the worst in you, others bring out the best, and then there are those remarkably rare, addictive ones who just bring out the most. of everything. they make you feel so alive that you’d follow them straight into hell, just to keep getting your fix
Karen Marie Moning
The only things that gets me is people act like you owe them something like for taking up their time you need to give it back to them...
I don't so fuck off.
Thing is, being single can be great. Last night, after I'd polished off my mousse, wiped away my gin tears and finished screaming into the darkness, I realised that your twenties are kind of the perfect time to not be in a relationship. Because now is not the time for binge watching House of Cards or wiping someone else's piss off the toilet seat. Now is the time for drinking slimlines in the street and falling off the back of mopeds while your bones are still supple enough to knit themselves back together.
1. Needy
2. Crazy
3. Still loves his ex
3. Bad kisser
4. Dirty hands 24/7
There are so many things I wish I could tell you, but I can’t. I'm not sure if you would ever understand because I don’t understand half of it. I wanted to be with you so bad, but was so afraid of getting hurt and because of that, I ended up getting hurt even more. I could sit here and say that I didn't care about you and that I'm not going to let you hurt me, and just by saying that I know that you can and have.
